Do you know how to recognize one in others? Relationships take on many forms and have many purposes depending upon what the people need that are in one. However, all relationships are not healthy. Some are formed; maintained and protected that actually hurt one or both of the participants. Here are some of the components of healthy relationships.
No matter where we are in our lives, we are either on a path of growth, in a maintenance mode or in decline. Our personalities are not static objects that remain unchanged by people or events. Our beliefs, attitudes and personalities are shaped by many things and one of the most impactful is our relationships with others. Some people require many relationships while others require very few. But the bottom line for most people is that there will be a few key relationships that will have the greatest impact on us at any given time either immediately or lasting long into the future. The relationships that are the best for personal happiness are those that aid us in personal growth and help us in meeting or working toward our personal goals.
In healthy relationships, both parties are gaining from the experience. One may gain as a teacher in personal fulfillment in helping another while the other may gain as the student by advancement in their personal development. Where relationships become unhealthy is when the benefits of the relationship are lopsided, where one party gains at the expense of the other. In love relationships, the goals of the relationship assume a third element; where each individual is benefitting from the relationship and the relationship itself is strengthened for the long term security and happiness of both parties. If a relationship is providing spiritual sustenance, happiness, a sense of well being and satisfaction for both parties, it is by definition a healthy relationship.
What is an Unhealthy Relationship?
It is equally important to understand what an unhealthy relationship is because often people will need to eliminate these from their lives before they can develop a healthy one. Some people engaged with you in unhealthy relationships will block others from developing healthy ones with you because they are threatened by them and don’t want you to realize that they are being used. Most people will be involved in many unhealthy relationships in their lives and their ability to recognize and eliminate them will have a lot to do with their ability to enjoy their lives. Knowing what a healthy relationship is and actively cultivating them is one of the keys to a happy life and unhealthy relationships will block our ability to find and nourish them.
What is a healthy relationship? It is one that will help you achieve your personal goals and fills and sustains your need for close positive human contact. Relationships that detract from your ability to find happiness and move ahead should either be avoided or eliminated. Life is short; spend it with people who will help you make it a happy one.